Women not responding seems to be a common complaint on this and other sites for dating. But it's also a complaint on the women side as well, although more rare. I don't truly think that this is anything new in life. I'm not just talking about high school lol. I'm talking about since evolution. After all, there has to be some type of mechanism in any species in choosing a mate. Just because we have evolved into looking via pictures and emails, doesn't change the fact that we still have to have some type of feeling or connection. And that goes both ways guys. So, is it rude? Probably, but the internet gives some people a feeling of anonimity. Whereas, if you met in person, you would at least acknowledge that person's eye contact, smile, etc, even if you weren't interested in pursuing them. My own feeling is this, if they don't respond, no big loss. They probably aren't someone you truly want to be with.
Women not responding seems to be a common complaint on this and other sites for dating. But it's also a complaint on the women side as well, although more rare. I don't truly think that this is anything new in life. I'm not just talking about high school lol. I'm talking about since evolution. After all, there has to be some type of mechanism in any species in choosing a mate. Just because we have evolved into looking via pictures and emails, doesn't change the fact that we still have to have some type of feeling or connection. And that goes both ways guys. So, is it rude? Probably, but the internet gives some people a feeling of anonimity. Whereas, if you met in person, you would at least acknowledge that person's eye contact, smile, etc, even if you weren't interested in pursuing them. My own feeling is this, if they don't respond, no big loss. They probably aren't someone you truly want to be with.
I don't know that looking at a pic and reading what one person decides to tell you about themselves can truly illicit deep feelings... now, I do believe that when a person knows what he/she wants then looking at a pic and then proceeding to have a conversation with that person can help to find out if there are true feelings. Now all these opinions are just that - opinions. That's the beautiful thing about human nature - lots of variety in all aspects: looks, personality, behaviors, attitude... the spice of life as they say. :-)
I don't know that looking at a pic and reading what one person decides to tell you about themselves can truly illicit deep feelings... now, I do believe that when a person knows what he/she wants then looking at a pic and then proceeding to have a conversation with that person can help to find out if there are true feelings. Now all these opinions are just that - opinions. That's the beautiful thing about human nature - lots of variety in all aspects: looks, personality, behaviors, attitude... the spice of life as they say. :-)
The no big loss part is true based on the shear number of oppurtunities afforded one on the internet but to advise that the original feeling of desire may have been false suggests that person does not know what he or she is doing when determining whom to reach out to and that is not something easily determined Diserning quality of oppurtunities is it a simple thing to with the limited information provided thru internet dateing. But this is an intresting subject.
The no big loss part is true based on the shear number of oppurtunities afforded one on the internet but to advise that the original feeling of desire may have been false suggests that person does not know what he or she is doing when determining whom to reach out to and that is not something easily determined Diserning quality of oppurtunities is it a simple thing to with the limited information provided thru internet dateing. But this is an intresting subject.
If somebody writes to me and I have the feeling they really mean me I will respond, even if not interested. If I just get a standart copy&paste message, sent out hunderts of times I won't bother.
Before I even responded to them and ended up discussing and defending myself why I would not like such contact.
If somebody writes to me and I have the feeling they really mean me I will respond, even if not interested. If I just get a standart copy&paste message, sent out hunderts of times I won't bother.
Before I even responded to them and ended up discussing and defending myself why I would not like such contact.
I also have to agree with Eledia. Since you don't have to privilege of meeting someone face to face the next best thing is what you say and your picture. There is no way for someone to get a "feel" for you if you have nothing to say but two words on your profile. If you really are looking for someone and want more that a bootie call then you have to put more time and effort into what you say and how you say it. If you say "ask me" exactly what are we suppose to ask if we have no idea what your interest are. The about me section can make for a easy ice breaker if there was actually something there to read.
I also have to agree with Eledia. Since you don't have to privilege of meeting someone face to face the next best thing is what you say and your picture. There is no way for someone to get a "feel" for you if you have nothing to say but two words on your profile. If you really are looking for someone and want more that a bootie call then you have to put more time and effort into what you say and how you say it. If you say "ask me" exactly what are we suppose to ask if we have no idea what your interest are. The about me section can make for a easy ice breaker if there was actually something there to read.
I agree with Eledia. It is important to have a Clear picture (please don't have your tongue sticking out, eww!)Write a clear paragraph about who you are. Give people a rerason to want to respond to you.
I agree with Eledia. It is important to have a Clear picture (please don't have your tongue sticking out, eww!)Write a clear paragraph about who you are. Give people a rerason to want to respond to you.
In my opinion many times a lot of men do not put their best photos (almost like they do not care). Some photos are blurry, super small sizes, or background takes 80% of the space. Often men do not even post their photos..."ask me"... Why would I go through "ask me" if I see many other good profiles where I do not have to ask much (?). Creating a good profile is like a work of art. You have to put some time into it! ...and you will get your winks. Also, many men do not write much about themselves, or write something like "...I will answer questions when we talk...". In order for me to talk to "you" I need to know what you are about (one good paragraph will not hurt you, but will help you a lot)!!!!!!!!!!. So many incomplete profiles.... Many write "I am looking for a woman ages 20/25 to 99/60" .... 40 to 60 years gap(?) Really? It is a red flag right away... Dear men, I hope it will help you a little.
In my opinion many times a lot of men do not put their best photos (almost like they do not care). Some photos are blurry, super small sizes, or background takes 80% of the space. Often men do not even post their photos..."ask me"... Why would I go through "ask me" if I see many other good profiles where I do not have to ask much (?). Creating a good profile is like a work of art. You have to put some time into it! ...and you will get your winks. Also, many men do not write much about themselves, or write something like "...I will answer questions when we talk...". In order for me to talk to "you" I need to know what you are about (one good paragraph will not hurt you, but will help you a lot)!!!!!!!!!!. So many incomplete profiles.... Many write "I am looking for a woman ages 20/25 to 99/60" .... 40 to 60 years gap(?) Really? It is a red flag right away... Dear men, I hope it will help you a little.
